Avoiding Offense

If you want to change your life forever, there is one area that you must get a grip on: offense. It is a key to so many areas of your life. In so many ways it will determine if you walk in victory or not. There are three areas I want to remind you of regarding offense. First not offending anyone, second getting to the place we are not offended and third understanding what happens when we are offended.


First, let us understand that we want to sow good things so we first must make sure we are not the source of offense. II Corinthians 6:3 talks about us “giving no offense in anything…”. You and I do not want to be responsible for creating the offense. We must watch our words, actions, tone, facial expressions, and our attitudes towards people. Treat people better than you want them to treat you. If we are the source of the offense, the Lord will not be pleased with us. In Matthew 18:7 Jesus said woe to the man from whom the offense comes. When you get a woe, you are in trouble! Mark 9:42 tells us for someone who offends a child that it would be better for a huge stone to be tied to their neck and they be thrown into the sea. That paints quite a vivid picture. In other words, don’t do it.


After we make sure we are not the source of offense, we must then get to the place where we are not offended. It is one thing to say I am not offended, but it is another to actually not be offended. It is easy to tell if you are offended. If the mention of a person’s name irritates you or you still get angry or sad at the thought of the situation, the best thing to do is “offend proof” your life. How do you do it? Living a life of forgiveness; remembering that Jesus has already forgiven you. Ephesians 4:32 says “And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.” It also says something similar in Colossians 3:13. When you and I live in constant forgiveness, it keeps us from being offended. Your new slogan for life should be, “I cannot be offended and I will not take offense.”


The truth is if we do not do this, we open ourselves up for the devil to cause havoc in our lives. You and I want to walk in the blessings of God. We want our inheritance! There is a scripture that makes it all so clear. In the Amplified version of I Peter 3:9 it says, “Never return evil for evil or insult for insult (scolding, tongue-lashing, berating), but on the contrary blessing [praying for their welfare, happiness, and protection, and truly pitying and loving them]. For know that to this you have been called, that you may yourselves inherit a blessing [from God–that you may obtain a blessing as heirs, bringing welfare and happiness and protection]. Can you see it? The blessings stay away from people who are offended and return evil for evil or offense with offense. We all know that walking in offense causes our faith not to work (Mark 11:25-26). And a very big one, if you let offense stay, it begins to grow and then it not only bothers you but it begins to infect those around you. In Hebrews 12:15 it says roots of bitterness spring up and defile many. That word “defile” is the same word as to rape someone. Please let us all make sure we are conquering offense. Don’t let it near you. The Lord wants us all to be able to walk in His promises and receive our inheritance.


Let this be your confession: I will do my best not to offend anyone. I will not take offense! I will not let offense stay in my life. I will teach others not to be offended!

Wesley Wallace